My Daughter Wants Me to Take Care of Her Kids After Abandoning Me

It is a great advantage to have our relatives look after our children while we are busy with our jobs, especially when they do not charge us anything.

However, is it fair to expect this help from our parents after all the conflicts we had with them?New message From: Rachel Subject: My daughter cut off all ties with me but then appeared and asked to babysit her kids My daughter Amy never cared about me since she turned 18.

She excluded me from her life events, like her graduation, her engagement, and so on. So we barely talk to each other. She has two boys now and she recently reached out to me.

I was surprised and we had a conversation. After some time, Amy started to whine about how hard it was to raise her kids without any help. She asked me to babysit them on Saturdays and be a good grandparent.

I told her that she had destroyed our bond a long time ago and I can’t take care of her kids now. She called me selfish and blocked me everywhere. Was I wrong to refuse to help my daughter with the kids after everything that happened between us? I would appreciate your input and your helpful advice.

Thank you for reaching out and sharing your concerns about the situation with your daughter. We at understand how unsettling and challenging this situation must be for you. Based on your description, here are some practical and realistic pieces of advice to help you navigate through this situation:

Know your rights. You are not obligated to help your daughter with her kids, especially after she treated you so poorly. You have the right to set boundaries and protect yourself from emotional harm. You are not selfish for saying no to her unreasonable request. • Try to find the reasons.

You should try to understand why your daughter rejected you and cut you off from her life. Maybe there is something she felt insecure about in your relationship. Maybe she was influenced by someone else or had some personal problems. Try to empathize with her and see things from her perspective.